The Full Mind Weigh™ to Lifelong Weight Management, a program of the Institute for Lifelong Weight Management – teaching the skills you need to keep the weight off forever!
1. What is self-sabotage?
When we engage in behaviors that interfere with our long-term goals, we are engaging in self-sabotaging behaviors. Usually, these behaviors are performed automatically and unconsciously.
2. Examples of self-sabotage:
– Eating for “comfort” despite a desire to not regain the weight
– Failing to plan meals and prepare food ahead of time
– Turning off the alarm and going back to sleep instead of getting up to exercise – on a consistent basis
3. Why do people self-sabotage?
Often, self-sabotaging behavior results from emotional dysregulation – the inability to manage painful emotions in constructive ways. Some other common reasons include:
– low self-esteem (feeling unworthy of lasting success)
– fear – of failure, change, loss, disapproval, or even fear of success
– holding onto self-defeating thoughts
– impatience – difficulty with long-term persistence
4. How to put an end to self-sabotaging behavior:
– Be aware – observe yourself and your choices, take notes, journal – be aware of your self-sabotaging habits and behavioral patterns, and the emotions and self-defeating thoughts that underlie them
– Reconnect with your goals and values
– Avoid all-or-nothing thinking – remember that a slip does not have to turn into a catastrophe
– Work hard to accept that you deserve to be healthy – learn how to silence your critical inner voice
– Learn how to cope with your emotions – help is available in the form of therapy, workshops, and self-help books
– Replace self-defeating thoughts with self-empowering thoughts
“Self-sabotage is when we say we want something and then go about making sure it doesn’t happen.” – Alyce Cornyn-Selby, speaker, author, and nationally recognized master on the subject of self-sabotage
With your continued health in mind,
Doreen Lerner, Ph.D.
Director, The Institute for Lifelong Weight Management
Creator, The Full Mind Weigh™ to Lifelong Weight Management
The Institute for Lifelong Weight Management provides education and training. The Full Mind Weigh™ is strictly an educational program and is not a substitute for medical or psychological evaluation or treatment. If you think you may be suffering from an eating disorder, please consult with a qualified mental health professional who is trained to evaluate and treat eating disorders.